Wednesday, February 20, 2008

Birthday Party

I am frantically trying to figure out what to do for my son's birthday. Normally, I would plan a party months in advance, have it at my house, make WAYYYY too much food, have some games, some great prizes, and invite too many kids to come.

Well, this year, time got away from me. I have nothing planned.

I could still do a party at my house, but I don't want to. This party should prove to be very stressfull, and I don't want it at my house. I must include T. I must include T's parents. My parents will be in town. I choose to include D. I choose to includ D's parents (and sister and brother - who my kids just idolize). I choose to include D's daughter. I choose to include my friends.

Are you doing the math here? An ex set of in-laws, complete with ex-husband as well as my parents in the same location for any length of time is going to be enough to turn me into a creature that will resemble something out of mythical lore. The last thing I want to do is to do it in my house.

My house is my home, my santuary. Although there are occassional arguments that occur, my house is a place of peace and love. My house is the place where I get to watch my children learn and where they get to teach me valuable lessons. My home is where I get to spend quiet time with people I love. I don't want T. coming into my house and acting like a host. I don't want T. leading his parents around, talking to my friends, showing people where the bathroom is, and acting like he lives there. My house is where my family lives, and T and I haven't been family for many, many years.

So back to square one... what am I going to do for this birthday party???


alienbody said...

Honey, I love you and think you are fabulous. However, I have to say that I think you are insane to do something like this so soon after the split. You are just inviting drama to the party. Anyway, you have to do what is best for you. Good luck.

Chickenbells said... least all the mythical creatures had fabulous you won't have to worry about how fabulous your coif is going to look that day!

Is it OK to have your own party with your own family and friends and let T have his own? Or is that too much birthday for one little one to handle?